So I need to prepare myself for this meeting on Monday. It will most likely comprise of 3 parts
1. Finances
I am already doing a fairly good job on this. My attitude is to be fair and reasonable but not give her anything extra for the purpose of appeasing her. I have been completely transparent in all these dealings and called her out when she has tried to take advantage. So I am happy with my performance here.
2. Prepare House for sale
There is some work we need to do for this and I am take responsibility for 50% of it as again I think this is what is fair. I am also taking her to task to assist with this prep work as she is the one who wants the separation.
3. Discussing the the logistics of separation.
This is the one I am going to have difficulty with and need help. Everything in my gut tells me I should initiate a R conversation with her and ask her is she sure this is what she wants but my head and what I have learned from DB and the forum says act cool and just proceed like it does not overly affect me.
She knows I don't want this and want to work on the M so I know there is probably no point in re stating this so why do I feel I should ?
Its strange that she was the one constantly saying she wanted out and that we need to sell the house but at the same time doing nothing about it except telling friends and the kids and now I am the one driving this, setting dates and organizing the logistics. I feel like I am now the driving force behind the thing I want the least. Not really sure how the switch happened except I didn't want to get led around by the nose.
Is there a proper way to just come out one last time and say. "I am going ahead with this even though I believe it to be completely unnecessary and something we will both regret" or do I just act like I am completely ok with the separation and just focus on what i need to do.
