Hey! I was away in the mountains..just came back after 8hr car trip & the car lost its suspension, so ratttled in more ways than one! I had a good time away, got in a day of skiing as my parents and I rotated looking after bub and going for runs! Fun! Lots of nice people staying in the lodge..basically, great to just get away. Bought a really good book called "I love you but I am not in love with you" (!) by a Mr Marshall - English therapist. Really good read & helped me understand why I am still having trouble accepting what is happening..the whole lack of 'closure' thing...and what leads to the ILYBINILWY bomb..how resentment can build over years until someone in the couple loses hope and all feeling. Also talks about how deadly affairs are to reconcilliation... nothin new there, MWD! Funnily enough it also gives advice to about-to-be WAS's on how to best deliver the bomb to minimise damage... basically WH did everything that wasn't recommended! G, he also talks about Bawlby and your 'detatched' personality type. WH leaves on the 19th... in 7 days. He has one visit tomorrow and two next week. I am on a rollercoaster ride of emotions..still a lot of anger as notihing is resolved in terms of where I will live long term, with what money, etc.. As for the division, there has been almost NO discussion, other than we are both worded up that I get 65-70%... which puts me out of the market for owning my own home again anytime soon. Still composing persuing love letters and lectures in my head.. a million goodbye scenarios racing through my mind... and one; in which I say nothing. Let him talk. Emotionless. 'kay..off to check other threads.. x
