Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I've alrealdy told him my L is in court all day today. I think I will wait until about 8:00 a.m. and email him as if I just read it that L hasn't called me and promise to call him as soon as he does, which can't be until next week as I'm out of town on Friday.
Just find it interesting that he wouldn't even say hello to me yesterday, but wants me to call him a few hours later.
Just find it interesting that he wouldn't even say hello to me yesterday, but wants me to call him a few hours later.
It's a possibility that he couldn't handle a face to face talk with you because he's afraid of his feelings. Much easier for him to talk to you when he doesn't have to see your face.
Just posted on your thread, and as I said there, you are probably spot on. Not to mention it would have been in front of my friends and his son and dil.
Still confused about the 'calm' I felt throughout the entire thing. Very confusing emotions/non emotion response, don't you think?
I think the 'calm' that you feel comes from truly starting to understand what you're dealing with and accepting that all you really can control is yourself.
It's not to say that you won't ever be angry or hurt by your H again, but you have your footing with it now and know how to handle it.
Detachment really is for you and with it brings a sense of relief.
I've said this before. I really admire your strength through out your sitch. Your H is a fool and I hope he wakes up in time to realize what he's trying to throw away.
Just wondering .... how come your H's son didn't come and greet you? Or didn't he see you? Or, is he one of those that took sides? You might've already said, so I apologize for repeating.
And, I agree with SA .... it is so freeing when one realizes that you can only control yourself. One may have some influence over others, but ultimately, no control whatsoever. So, it releases you from guilt.
Expect H to cycle through interest then disinterest. He may come out of the tunnel partway, then run back in. It must be so horrible for them, that one can have some pity, but not enough to scr*w yourself. They still have to face reality, and the LBS is the one to do it, not some bimbo trying to get as much out of it as she can. She, too, must be shown the reality of life, and that the W is the one that has more strings to pull than some stupid OW. Just because she is sleeping with the fool, does not give her much power, other than some small manipulation that can only go so far.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
