Awest, so sorry to hear about H's Aunt! It's always tough no matter whose side of the family it is on. There is definitely no reason not to go, unless it really makes you feel that uncomfortable. I think Soleil has the right idea to just avoid the topic if you can (but no need to avoid the family all together) and just give them the simple answer that you're not together and don't want to discuss it futher. No need to go into the whole D thing. They'll find out soon enough.
Regarding the fridge, definitely take him up on it (if he follows thru). It's only maniuplation if you let him manipulate you. Right now tho, you're the one in charge. Right now your on the D train and there's only one way off, and getting a fridge is it. Take what you can while you can - I think that's the least H could do.
Well you know too "I don't know" is the easier cop out. Sometimes I think "I don't know" is really less about not knowing what they want then really knowing but wanting it all. H knows exactly what he wants - he wants you on one side to have the nice happy family and keep up that front and OW on the other side for what appears everything else. You're just doing what you've got to do to protect yourself now b/c no one can continue living a life like that no matter how much they want to avoid a D. Even so, it's not easy. I'm glad your trying to find the positive though in your new outlook on life and continue to look toward the future.
Soleil - I was wondering the same thing. In theory, DB should work, but it seems like these spouses are just too stubborn & selffish to give up whatever crutch they have (more often that not OW's or OM's). Obviously there are the success stories, but there just seem to be a lot of us in these more bleak sitch's.
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
