Now when they translate that as go f--k yourself, you're thinking...Good For You...lol
CD hold off on the 'i'm not your friend' message. Get some feedback from puppy and the other guys. They have so much more experience in this vein that I do.
I never gave my W that message. Never once. But I'm certainly not acting like a friend toward her.
When you let people sit in their guilt and you don't even give them recognition, I think it has a much harder impact than any message you can send.
When someone gives you a gift and you refuse it, who does the gift belong to?
When you act friendly toward your W, she's giving you a little gift, a piece of Sh*t sandwich. And she wants you to eat it so she doesn't have to.
My W is lying and fabricating things in court papers. Now she knows she's doing that. If I am friendly toward her I'm basically telling her - sure I'm a doormat, no matter what you do to me I'll be your friend; now look, if I eat a piece of this sh^t sandwich you're giving me (her guilt) that's one less piece she has to keep.
Her persepective - I know I'm lying. I know it's wrong. Part of me that is my conscious is eating away inside me, now if I can get him to be friendly with me, then that means he forgives at least a small part of this cr@p...he's taking it off of me and putting it on himself. Now I feel better.
Now I'm a doormat and ate a chunk of disrespect; lost some of my self respect; she gets to feel better while I once again pay the price.
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