Well that certainly will drive the point home CD. I don't know much about that approach. I think the poison feeds them - more gasoline for them "See, this is why I'm doing what I'm doing".
There is nothing worse than solitary confinement for a person. The worst version of hell that can exist isn't torture...it's being somewhere completely alone.
Personally I think the 'you're dead to me other than the kids' is better for me. I don't want to become that person she believes I am. I don't want to be mean (fuels her engine) I don't want to be nice and a 'friend' (me doormat; no respect) so what does that leave? Apathy?
Now that I've gone back and forth on this, I just realized where I need to tighten up my boundaries. Thanks CD.
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