NB - yes I am moving out with the kids. I know that is not usually recommended, but it sounds like you and I are in similar boats. H has done nothing about finding a place to live, even though this is HIS decision originally. And, he has burned all his bridges, so he literally has NO friends or family who will even take him. Financially we can't afford two households. I am moving in with my parents until I can get on my feet financially and emotionally. This also lessens my work commute considerably which is good for me in every way.
Well, I'm glad you have a place to go where you can save some money. Hopefully it won't be too stressful living with your parents . And a short commute is a bonus too.
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I handed my H the "draft" I have done regarding our verbal agreements to settle everything. I gave it to him this morning. As I thought, he is surprised that I am pushing and moving forward. He seems quite stunned. He finally noticed I stopped wearing my rings, which also seemed to surprise him. He still wears his.
Next week is our 20th wedding anniversary.
Today I am sad.
I'm so sorry. That's quite a milestone and not great timing for it. I can't believe he's still wearing his rings. My H took his off within a month of the bomb, I was so mad. I wore mine until I lost it 2 weeks ago, which pissed me off b/c I wasn't ready to stop wearing it. But I guess the choice was made for me. Yes, we are in similar boats- I will probably end up doing what you're doing with the written agreement, etc. Were you able to agree on $ and custody, all that just with the two of you without too much trouble? Mine just never seems to have time to discuss any of this stuff, which is funny b/c he wanted this. Actually, it's not funny- I don't see any indication he's thought anything through, particularly where our D is concerned, which is very disappointing. I'm glad you guys reached an agreement- does that mean you'll just be using the L's to draw up the official papers or do you still have things to settle?
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Just part of the roller coaster I guess. I am letting myself be sad, to the extent that I can because I am at work. But, I know I need to grieve and will be grieving for a while. Lots of tears today.
I will shed them and work on keeping focused on what I need to do for me.
Good for you- let it out, but don't let it consume you. There is too much grief in all of this- it's a death of the M, which has to be grieved. Take care of yourself and lean on anyone you need to.
. And a short commute is a bonus too. 
