I can't explain it, but New Beginnings is VERY different from most marriage weekend deals. It forces EACH spouse to participate and it forces each to take personal responsibility. I'm pretty familiar with programs and nothing I've ever seen is like this. Your H would HAVE to participate, like it or not. Doesn't mean you'll walk away totally "cured" but believe me - I know my H was changed by it, even though I was hurt at the end of the weekend that he wasn't just 100% turned around. We've made progress that I know without that weekend, we would not have. Ask Allen! lol
Just to add, my H went along kicking and screaming - tried to cancel several times - and was too prideful to admit he was glad we went but did say, "I don't regret going at all," which was his way of saying it was productive. He's even told the kids he was glad of the lessons learned there.
You get a lot of tools, but you find out a lot about yourself (and your spouse) that sticks with you even if the lessons fade. Even if my M doesn't survive, I will still be glad we went! I know we have a much better chance due to that weekend, however.
