Blindsided, Just served with papers!

[Chuck66]

My wife works only 1 job but stays there 11 hours a day. Escapism or EA, who knows? Too many watching her for PA.

Why wake her up. Turn the TV off and go to bed with her still on the couch. I like to give the WAS a taste of what it's going to be like outside of the M.

I bought Rib Eye steaks and had them in the fridge overnight. W's favorite cut of meat. She got home late again. The kids had hotdogs and I grilled and ate half the steak. She wasn't home until after I bathed the kids, brushed their teeth, etc. She thinks she wants to be single, then she can fend for her own supper and not see her kids go to bed.

LOL about "makes you face look bigger"! I wouldn't have even said that line before the WAS syndrome arrived!

I am also starting to cut her out of family events. The next baseball game I am going to tell her I'd just like to go with the kids. Same with church. We won't be doing those things after the D so she's better get used to it.

You saying, "ok and shrugging your shoulders" reinforces the idea that you will always be her safety net. You don't want to be a safety net for any of her options. It's ok to say no. There is no mystery to you if you are always there.