WAW says she wants to come back

[Grocerykartman]

Thank you Tulsa,

No she has not given him up, I don't think she feels its something she wants to do if she can't get committment from me to try to work this out. I feel she wants me to basically swallow all pride in this, commit to take her back and work on it, and then she "will" do it. Basically the 1-2-2-1 vs 1-2-1-2 scenario I talked about. That only shows to me she is still a cake eater, but maybe now just a much more remorseful one than before. I couldn't promise her anything right now, since there are major trust issues. Giving OM up could only be the first step, as far as I can see it. Really hard to say if there can be any more steps, but that's the only chance.

I just feel like its too late for that, I have been dealing with this OM garbage for 1.5 years now..and made ultimatums a long time ago. Obviously, we know those don't work....but I am simply drained at the thought of "seeing if" she will give him up this time if she says she will. She's my wife, not my child. I shouldn't have to devote all my time to checking up on her and researching her transparency. That's no more of a way to live life than it is to be in the dark and blind sided by extracurricular activity. What I'm really trying to understand is, does anything in her letter jump out as an extraordinary breakthrough , like the ball really is back in my court and I am being foolish not to take her back and try.