E,

Did I tell you that I'm proud to know you? Proud as hell!

There is one thing that has struck me as I've followed your story and I think we would all do well to remember it:

You are not a victim! Many of us wallow in our self-pity and blame our spouses for our troubles.

You are shining a light on how to move forward in love, grace, class and dignity. God is watching and may He bless you abundantly.