I just want to be there to give you a big hug. It sounds like you think you need to keep doing the NC to keep from being hurt by him..but that you question whether or not it's the right thing to do. I don't have enough experience with NC to even offer an opinion. Keep asking..someone with experience will help.
As for the re-connection..I'd tell you how ours happened..but it isn't what everyone here would recommend and might end up hurting you more even if it worked. It is true that you want him to come back to you of his own free will..because he wants to be with you and because he wants the relationship to work and is willing to put in the work.
How does your C define Compassionate Distance? That's kind of an oxymoron isn't it? I guess it depends on how it's defined.
