Has she given up the OM? She needs to whether you want to work it out or not. That would show some commitment on her part.
Her letter and what she articulated rings a bell for me. I did the same thing to my wife by having an affair. I felt I loved the OW but I made a choice to choose my family and marriage.
Once I did that, I woke up to what I did and what I lost. During the affair, nothing else mattered.
What I'm saying is that people can and do change, and the changes can be real.
