Do you think you could get him to go away for a weekend marriage retreat thing? The one I went on with H was incredible!!! It takes the place of MONTHS of counseling, even though it isn't counseling. I truly think that where you are in this relationship, it would be extremely beneficial to you.
I am so slammed right now, I don't have the time until next week, but I want to post a lot about the weekend. Your H doesn't have to WANT to go, he only has to be willing to go - even if for the wrong reasons and even if it is with the worst attitude in the world.
We did a weekend marriage class not long after we married (Marriage Prep 101 in San Francisco). It didn't help. It ended up that I tried to follow through on the lessons we were taught, but he quickly went back to what he was doing. Eventually I think I got frustrated and fell back into my old patterns too. His response likely comes from his mindset over the years that *I* am the one with the problems.
I'd be open to doing one again, but am fearful that, once again, I'll be the only person "paying attention".
Me: 29 Him: 30 Married: 2 years Together: 13 years No kids Bomb: 6/4/10 Started MC: 7/16/10
