Positives in a few but first - Dr said I was healthy as a horse However he renewed my prescription for my "Kinky Goo" Testosterone supplement gel and gave me a sample of Levitra - I hope I get a chance to use it.
I went to pick her up and since we were both hurgry we went to Longhorns right away - had a very good dinner - and then went back to her house and watched a little TV during the show we talked some and she got a call from one of her GF who asked her to go to with her someplace. That was on the night we were going to a Christmas party so she turned GF down. later in talking C said that GF asked her the other day when GF found out that C & I were dating if she was really single. C responded "I am on paper."
While C is still sitting firmly on the fence and has told me she is still going over in her mind the "to Bob, or not to Bob" question, I find that her response to GF is interesting. Also the fact that she is tossing that question around in her head is very good in that just over a month ago she was thinking that there was no way we would get back together.
Anyway back to the evening - we moved our tv watching from the LR to the BR and cuddled some then went to sleep - Still no ML - she still has yeast infection but I believe there would be no ML even without the infection.
She did get up in middle of night and went to couch but she said not because of me. I got up this morning and fixed her coffee and we sat and talked then we took a shower - having someone scrub your back (and other places) is great.
Then I had to take my car to the shop (needs about $1000 worth of repair - Ouch) then in to the office
Positives
1 - Morning Coffee was with Cindy at her house 2 - She told GF that she was single on paper 3 - Showered together this morning 4 - have a date for Friday night to eat our Thanksgiving Dinner - Turkey Sandwitches while watching "Finding Nemo"
"Finding Nemo" is so cute! I hope you like it as much as we did! I think listing your positives are great! That way you are looking for them and thinking about them most of the time!
Have a wonderful TG and will be checking in to see how Friday goes!
Happy Thankgiving, Bob and Cindy! If she told her GF she is single on paper, it means she's still mentally married She just has not realized that yet...
We need to get her a computer so that you can post 'our' morning positives from her place She will not be jealous of your fan club, will she?
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Opt - she has a computer - in fact several but I was too busy to post - as much as I like to post and keep up with my BB friends - I would much rather post to Cindy given the chance.
Deb - happy TG to you too - I know you have a lot to be thankful for too. I think she was kinda supprised when she told me that she had the CD and I said Good, I want to see it. Trukey sandwitches, Finding Nemo, and a nice fire in the fireplace. --- hoping for a good weekend.
I notice someone else posting positives and I do think it is a good idea - If you look for positives then you will generally find some, and if you think only of the positives then you will be positive in your outlook. on the other hand if you only look for the negitives then that is all you will see and you will have a negitive outlook.
By the way - last night she got kinda grumpy and this morning appoligized for that - I told her that if she wanted to be one of the 7 dwarfs then I could be one of them too and I choose to be "Happy". That gave her a little smile.
Fantastic. Things sound great. Knowing that she said she was "single on paper" is so encouraging. In her mind she's still your wife. She's coming around. I'm sure it won't be long before those showers progress to greater things!
I really feel bad that I completely forgot a great positive from yesterday morning. Just before our shower, we were playing around in the bedroom with the puppy and I really do not know how we did it but we both ended up keeling by the bed with our arms kinda in the praying position and I made some remark about us praying and darn but she started actually praying out loud and thanked God for us and the opportunity to work on our R. After the prayer we both just stood up and I gave her a big hug. And she said that she knew that I was kidding with my statement about praying but that it seemed to be the thing to do at the time and I thanked her and said we should do it more.
(This post is slower than others for several reasons, I do not have to work today so I slept in, and in between key strokes I am eating one of the Best tasting Cinnamon Sweet Rolls I have eaten in a long time. - don’t usually do that for breakfast but I felt that today I deserved it. A 180 for me only)
Anyway - back to yesterday - I had to leave my car at the shop and so I was at my office without a ride. The shop was suppose to come get me when the car was done but I was busy and said I would call them back in about an hour and they said that would be fine. However — when I called back all I got was a voice mail in the service department. The dealership was open but I could not get them to come get me. I mentioned this to C on the IM and without hesitation, she said that she would come get me and take me to the shop to get my car. (That is about a 40 minute drive each way) I told her I would appreciate it but that they would likely call back and come get me. She kinda insisted though so I said I would really like that.
Well, within about 10 minutes the shop called and said they were on there way, so I called C on the Cell and told her that the shop courtesy car was coming over to get me and I hoped she was not too far. She said she would just go to the place where I got her her gift certificate for a Wave Bed thing. ( a kind back massager - water bed thing at a local tanning bed place - it really relaxes you) and that she would just use some of the minutes for that then maybe we could meet for dinner. I said great and after getting my car I headed over.
met her for dinner at an Italian place where her S21 (her youngest) works as a waiter and sat at his station. We had a great dinner and really good service, C even insisted she pick up the tab - I noticed she tipped at 120%, but I kinda think she likes the waiter. We then went to her place and checked out local movies and settled on a chick flick down the street. A movie called “Love Actually” A little bit different than the average movie but we both really enjoyed it. In the middle of the movie she turned to me and thanked me for going to a “chick flick” with her.
We then went back to her place and talked some and since it was late and I did stay the night last night I said that I should go. She thanked me for the evening and asked me to give her a call when I got home
So - Positives today over my coffee (done with the sweet rolls and on my third cup)
1. Her prayer yesterday morning 2. Our shower yesterday morning 3. Her dropping everything to come get me when I needed it 4. She really enjoyed her time on the Wave Massage machine 5. She asked me to dinner again (and said that that was one of the things she wanted to do yesterday) 6. We had a very special dinner again last night 7. We really enjoyed a movie together. 8. Last night on the phone (really this morning at 12:10am) when I called her after I got home even though she said she was working on Her and that we were taking one day at a time she did said ILY again as we hung up.
Well, this is not the thanksgiving I would have thought I would have had last summer but, it is way ahead of what it could have been and I am thankful for that opportunity to make things better so that next year and the many years after it will just get better and better.
I have been thinking about her telling me about her GF asking her if she really was single and her response that she was on paper, and realized that I have been consentrating on the last part of that, - her answer to GF. But, there is also another positive there. There must have been something in C's actions or words with GF for GF to even ASK the question.
I have picked up that she is talking alot about me to her sisters and the other day I was at her house and she asked me to answer her phone when it rang. Later in talking with her I said what if that was her Sister and would she be supprised if I answered the phone. She said tht Sis would not be suprised.
She will not be jealous of your fan club, will she? 
