I dont want to be a pain in the keester, but you are setting yourself up for some conflict with him doing this...
YOU become the bearer of his bad news... is that a setup you want in the home?
He has issues about finances and you are setup to be the one who now tells him when bad things happen.. He WILL associate you with bad news... He already HAS hasn't he?
Why do you have TWO budget sheets running for the same home?
Why not one that you both update regularly? That way its the SHEET thats the bad news not you.
If he wants to find out what was spent that month he goes to the PC and looks to find out... He doens't wait for an email from you.... big difference...
YOu want to DISTANCE yourself from the negatives .. and finances is a huge one for him isnt' it?
In my home I have a workssheet in excel that I use.. i put it on the server and my wife can look at it anytime she wants. She can add to it or make changes if she likes to... but when she looks at it, I am not there.. its just her and the workseheet.. its not me bringing her the sheet for review...
See the diff? It may be subtle, but psychologicaly it can have a huge impact.
She also maintaines a spreadsheet of maintenance tasks that need done for the hosuehold
a. New windows b. New roof c. Paint fence
etc
I don't associate her with the work since its on the sheet... I don't like the sheet, but I use it... but it has nothing to do with her.. she just helps fill it in
see?
I would use ONE sheet that you BOTH update and both look at equally
