I think you guys and I will just have to agree to disagree! smile

Do I know that I could live alone as an old maid school marm and be a single mother? Of course I could! BUT I DON'T WANT TO SO I WILL NOT!

I will keep arguing with you guys (affectionately of course) but it is NOT human nature to be solo. Nope, we do need affection (it is proven by research) and we need companionship. I don't need a husband to make me feel good about myself and I don't need a husband/boyfriend to feel "complete," but for MY life, I plan on having a lover-companion-boyfriend-husband in the future, for my values and dreams in life, and that is what will happen. (future could mean 3-10 years, folks!)

GM you might be misunderstanding me- I am not "waiting" or "saving" stuff for when I am with someone! No, if I want to go to Greece with S or my friends, I will still plan on going, kwim? I think it is a problem when people pass up plans or opportunities to WAIT or "just in case" they get married.

I met stbxh 3 weeks prior to moving in with a roommate in order to save money to buy my own house. My future roommate said "I don't think you will be reliable because you might marry this guy" and I laughed at her and said "wth? I have only known him for a couple of weeks!"

As for being codependent, I don't know! Unless it applies to anyone who wants to stay married when their spouse leaves or cheats?


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004