Yes, which is what I'm trying my hardest to educate them on.

I just had to email H a list of expenses for D for college next week, as well as my own (college expenses) and household expenses upcoming.

I'm worried that this is going to totally overwhelm him and put him back in misery mode! I know I can't do anything about it if it does, but I just hate it. However, avoiding the issue does no good either. SO, I just have to deal with whatever bad mood it puts him in.