If they are not talking, how can I pay attention and listen?
When you take care of business (TCB).
Kids - school, sports, hobbies, behavior Finances - car, house Moving - start talking about splitting up the Christmas decorations, photos, artwork,the kids artwork, music (all the emotional stuff) -while you lead
She will start talking and the opportunity is there.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.