I believe in positive thinking! It is awesome and helps me through so much. So I will plan my future with someone in it--but the other stuff you said is right on! 20/20 is hindsight and maybe this will be an opportunity for me to really learn how to communicate needs and wants, etc. in my next relationship.
But yeah- "good wife and bad wife"--it's all subjective. I guess we should have defined what we needed. Ah well..."cry me a river, build a bridge and get over it!" right, Romeo?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004