How to tell if there is an A

[DumpedforMIL]

Attachment simply put is the bond that a couple builds after spending years together through thick and thin....

we didn't have an easy courtship. we endured a lot of criticism as a couple. we hid our relationship because we weren't sure how others would react to us being together.
my h and i never fought each other. but together, we fought whatever came our way. we made a good team.

when we play squash as partners, i just know where he is going to be and he knows where i'm going to be. and it works. even to this day, he can't play with someone else. he gets frustrated because he'll constantly be colliding with his partner.

This attachment causes them to come home while in the heat of an affair.

why? because they know it's wrong but they come home to try and find a reason to stop?

In short.. He's dragging this out partly for the simple fact that he misses you.

this i don't want to believe. i'm trying to detach and every day, i'm slowly trying to not care.

What would make someone who has been through the nonsense that you've tolerated worry about her estranged husband's sudden weight gain and possible heart problems?

What is making you worry about his health?

compassion. i could forget the d-bomb and everything. but in the end, i hold no ill will against him. i don't wish an early death upon anyone. i'm not so mad that i wish they were all dead. no. i'm beyond that now.

when we were just friends, i cared about him the same way. he was alone in the city and he didn't have anybody who cared about him. weird, eh? his parents were out of state. all of his male friends were married with families and had other priorities. i just made sure he was okay. we became great friends that way.

He doens't even understand it, its subconsious. Ask anyone here about their spouse moving out.. or legal disputes.. they DRAG ON FOREVER.. its because attachment is fighting the two people driving them together again...

please don't say it'll drag on forever. i have a house to pay for.

Everything your H does to avoid breaking all association with you is attachment..

when he moved out, he wanted to keep pictures of me. he gave me some t-shirts that he outgrew but said i could use as nightshirts. he also took some items of mine and kept them as momentos.

are you sure this isn't mind reading? i've been warned not to mind read.