My solution is to find a friend who is aware and sensitive of my issue, and is going to knowingly let me have it when I want it. Plus I'm going to do a QuickSilver264's process of doing 31 days of things that I want to do, whether I want to or not.
Dropping excess body weight by getting back on consistent gym regiment is good too. Plus my new ladies friends are going to say "yes", "YES", "YES". Not "NO", "Maybe", "Later", LOL.
I've had the rejection and slow down for so many years, that it caused it to back up. I will definately keep you guys informed how it goes.