Deciding to work at a marriage is just that -- a DECISION. You don't "try" to make decisions; you MAKE them. You can "try" to get feelings back, "try" to feel romantically connected again, "try" to be more respectful and loving toward your spouse. But answering a question as to whether or not you're ready to make a commitment to "try to be in this marriage," to me anyway, is a DECISION, and leaving it unanswered leaves it as a "no, I'm not" in my book.
I wouldn't be here if the Greek wouldn't have told me she was willing to do the work and she was all in. Then I watched her read the books I read and read on DB. She worked on her issues and the concerns I had. It wasn't all fun but her actions matched her words. The commitment to our marriage and me was/is a powerful statement. I think this was a response to her seeing how hard I worked and was fighting for her and our family. I let it be her choice.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
