Your H is likely dragging it out due to attachment at work... That I think is the most likely explanation...
can you expand on this? my brain is a bit numb today. i feel myself falling back and asking myself why he is behaving this way. it's almost like i refuse to use the excuse that he's acting like a child. he's an adult so act like one. it's downright pathetic. and i know mwd says don't get dragged down to their level but somedays i just want to scream at him. i never had the chance to.
i had 12 ic sessions from feb to mid jun. in every session, all i did was yell. i yell and vented and i spoke to her as if she was my h. i felt better when i left. but the next day, i found the anger came back twice as hard. i would be on the phone with a crisis counsellor who would try to calm me down.
i felt so scared at one point that i thought i needed to go to the hospital.
the vets here helped me turn my life around. the only reason why i am not in the vortex of a toilet bowl is because i did the work as of me. i can't get sucked back into the toilet bowl.
and so what if he has found someone else? does it matter at this point? i'm still happy with who i am. i've been pretty blessed to have the help and support i received so far.
i think deep down, i don't like the stigma associated with the 'divorced' label. i hate it so much that i don't tell people that i am separated. i just say i'm single and i leave it at that.
some of the things to be divided are sentimental items from our good friends. he created a 'contentious items' list which contain my engagement ring, a purse, a pair of ladies sunglasses, my wedding ring, and some other jewellery of mine. and you don't have to say it. i already know that those are not his. you and every l i've spoken to has told me that. but who's telling this to h? it's very frustrating.
