On two ends of the world..

[ris]

I try to back off a bit, but we do talk every day. I'm conflicted here a bit because one of our problems is that I don't open myself and I don't initiate conversation on important topics and we often "fluff-talk" avoiding serious issues.

So I make a distinction and let myself write him emails when I do have something pertinent to say on a R topic but I don't initiate chit-chats. I know that I shouldn't initiate R conversations, but lack of them is where our problem is so I feel that this rule doesn't apply. I stay away from the topic of my move to where he is which is the topic that causes the most conflict.

I really don't think there is someone else. I think it's more that he was sort of avoiding the realization of us living together and finally it was about to happen and that caused a knee jerk reaction. It seems to have been an issue from the start, but we just kept on sweeping it under the rug.

Now, I still can't get to the bottom of why living together is such a sore issue. When I tried to ask him, he mentioned something about it being a final realization that he's in a relationship and feeling trapped (and it all led to him not being sexually attracted to me anymore). He hasn't stayed in one place for more than a few months in the last 2+ years so I doubt that he found someone else. And I know that it's going to sound naive, but he's a very honorable person to his core. It would take for him to break one of his main principles to do that so I know it wouldn't come lightly. I know anyone can cheat, but it's just very unlikely being a person he is.