Last night before going to bed I wrote him an email about the separation money. I was sooo scared he wasn't going to like it! It was short and sweet, I calmly explained that I feel that this is money belongs to both of us, I feel we should be deciding on it together and I'm not okay with him spending it without discussing with me.
In the morning I found an email back and was stunned. H acknowledged and thanked me for bringing it up since it bothered me. He also explained in detail the financial situation he was in and asked whether I wanted to use that money for something (and if so, he was fine with me going ahead and using it) or what other idea I had.
We then discussed finances and it was amazing - we had a constructive conversation and made decisions together! He mentioned a few times the "once we live together" but still no steps towards that. But I'm letting him take his time with it and not pursuing. Then we had a nice chat about other things. I think my mistake was when I asked him how he was doing and how his work was and then saying that I care about it... He replied shortly that it was still stressful and he didn't enjoy it. I dropped the subject. After a while he asked how I was doing, not sure if he really was interested or was it just out of courtesy. I wanted to be sincere and open so possibly my answer was a bit too detailed. But then we continued talking and he seemed to be fairly engaged in conversation.
What do I do now? How do I keep this up??
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
