One of the good things about the BB is that with many others looking at your sitch you get other points of views that one would not normally consider.
While I have seen my W kinda tipsy on occasions it has never been more that 2 or 3 times a year. The most she will drink at any one time is usually only 1 or 2 drinks and usually only 3 or 4 times a month. (less than once a week for a couple of Cosmos or Margarettas. Neither of us like beer and we do not generally drink wine. We have had a bottle of booze at the house for over 3 years and it is still there. (it may last another three years at the rate we use it.)
While she did do the divorce kinda quickly, I firmly believe that it was the combination of my lack of sexual drive due to low testosterone, her MLC due to the change (hot flashes, change in harmones, Also she became a Grandmother for the first time) I am changing myself to be more of the man she wants to be with by taking a testosterone supplement and by letting her know that she is the best looking grangmother I have ever seen and that I support her in her business and her personal life.
She told me before the Bomb that I should just trust her and be patient and so I did not do anything. I just waited for her to come around, then she dropped the bomb. I am no longer just sitting around but DBing my A&& off and it is working.
