My H was the same way. I was controlling because I took care of everything (financially because if H did it everything would be late. Every credit card bill and many of his college loan bills he has admitted to being late on although he has the money). However, we never did anything because H would never decide on what to do or where to go and if we went anywhere I was always on edge about if he is having fun or not because I would get an ear full later, etc. Ultimately we never did anythign at all. We sat at home with me wanting to go out, but H wouldn't decide where and if I did then he said I was controlling him.
It is crazy how this does creep in on you.
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