Well great! Darn you are flying boy! My H is coming over, but it is nothing intimate, darn it! H likes to fence sit! LOL. Going to court Tuesday. at least I'm sure they won't take me out back and shot me, or worse hang me.LOL My Att said to ask it to go to trial? Don't agree to anything, just say yes I do owe the $260. Stay calm. I'm clueless, I've never had to go to court except when I had to go for temporary relief. Feels like I'm going to jail.LOL.
That's right, I'm a good girl. Never even got a ticket before!
Really nice evening - to soon over. She came over to my place and drove up just as I was coming home from work. We went inside and sat on the coach and talked some but she said right away that she was not going to spend the night. She said that she had a bad yeast infection. I said that that did not matter I was just glad she came. She was wearing one of the tops I bought her over the weekend, with some nice slip on 2 ˝ inch wedge heels, and some nice perfume, all of which she said she wore just for me. She really looked sharp. I told her that dressing for me made me feel real special and she said I was.
We then went to get our wings and had a really good time just eating and laughing. Lots if sexual innuendos too. We came back to my apartment and sat on the coach again and talked some more and I started giving her a foot massage which she said she really enjoyed. She said that she felt that she needed to return the favor but I told her that I enjoyed giving her a massage as much as she enjoyed getting one but that sometimes we will reverse the roles and I will just lay back and enjoy. She was concerned that I would be upset that she did not want to stay. I told her that some times she would want to stay and try to outdo our last weekend. Sometimes she would want to stay and just cuddle without any sex. Sometimes she would want to come over and then leave (like today) and sometimes she might not want to even come over. I told her we just going to work it one day at a time and work on friends like she wanted.
She did tell me about one of her clients that remarried his ex wife and that they were happier now than ever. However, she did say that she did not feel that if we did get married again that we would do it before a year apart. I asked her if we could at least “Go Steady” and if she would wear my class ring? She laughed and said “you’re bad.”
But, hey, one month ago she would not have believed that by now we would have spent the weekend together at a B& B and ML several times. I will let her say we are working on being friends, and that there is no way we will get remarried before a year. Her kisses and hugs tell me there are real feelings there. At least she is now admitting that remarriage may happen, a major step forward for her.
Will we be invited to the wedding? I do not know GA...
Told you so...
If a week after the divorce, she was dating you and a month and 6 days after the divorce she is talking of remarriage... I do not think I am going to have time to lose weight before the re-W Could you please slow down and let me drop 15 pounds? Just joking
BTW, guess who just came from dinner with her H and her bro with a neat little ring on her finger... and the bro saying things like 'you guys'
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
While she has now mentioned the possibility of remarriage, she still loves her perch on the fence. She has said ILY since the bomb and the D, but she does not say it much and I still quite often get a hint of hesitation and uncertainty when she says ILY verbally. However I do hear ILY loud and clear in a lot of her actions, like wearing perfume, the heels and the blouse for me last night, as well as in her hugs and kisses which are getting more frequent and freely initialed by her when we are together.
But I still sense that I have a long row to hoe. It is a positive step though, that she told me of her client who remarried after D and continued talking about the topic of remarriage and us.
While she did not want for us to get together this weekend we did set up a dinner date for next Tuesday night for steaks out.
She also positively responded to an invitation for a weekend get away for the weekend after Christmas if we can work it around the different family get togethers. We also discussed a return trip to the B&B for my birthday in March in addition to our previously planned trip to Boston at the end of April for a annual convention I go to.
But for now, my job will be to make each date and contact with her to be as fun for her and as positive as I can so that she will look forward to our next date and I will let her continue to bring up the remarriage talk when she is ready. (no pressure)
Well need to get my coffee - will post daily positives in a few
1. She IM yesterday and asked me to dinner. 2. She drove over to my place 3. she wore perfume, heels and special blouse for me. 4. she (for the first time) brought up the Remarriage topic, altho only to say it would be a long time. 5. She discussed future plans together including weekend get-a-ways. 6. She kisses and hugs real good. 7. she smiled and laughed when she was with me. 8. We had a very good meal together. 9. when she left last night she wanted to share a special story about one of her clients (not the Remarried one - just a good story she wanted to share) 10. When I asked if I could call her some mornings during coffee like I did before we were married she said that she would like that. 11. She seemed to have a very positive attitued about us.
Quote: I will let her say we are working on being friends, and that there is no way we will get remarried before a year. Her kisses and hugs tell me there are real feelings there. At least she is now admitting that remarriage may happen, a major step forward for her
Major step? She jumped in! LOL
Want to join the group we are sitting watching our H sit on the fence?! LOL
And it's wonderful, that you are talking about the future. And that she talked about the other couple that remarried! I hear wedding bells in the future! Great DBing!
Hi Deb - yes She does like to sit on the fence too. Right now she thinks it is a really nice spot. She did say last night though that she thought the big cry on Monday may have helped her to start getting over her being sick. She said that she had not been able to let it go and cry it out until then. I do think that stress can cause physical illness too. She said she started feeling better some Monday night and even better on Tuesday. Did real well with a presentation to a client on Wednesday and then yesterday was really feeling good.
Maybe letting go and crying all day Monday will help her start feeling better about our R too. I noticed last night that she was still sitting on the fence but did give a slight hint of sticking a foot down alittle. When she does I will give it a massage.
One of the good things about the BB is that with many others looking at your sitch you get other points of views that one would not normally consider.
While I have seen my W kinda tipsy on occasions it has never been more that 2 or 3 times a year. The most she will drink at any one time is usually only 1 or 2 drinks and usually only 3 or 4 times a month. (less than once a week for a couple of Cosmos or Margarettas. Neither of us like beer and we do not generally drink wine. We have had a bottle of booze at the house for over 3 years and it is still there. (it may last another three years at the rate we use it.)
While she did do the divorce kinda quickly, I firmly believe that it was the combination of my lack of sexual drive due to low testosterone, her MLC due to the change (hot flashes, change in harmones, Also she became a Grandmother for the first time) I am changing myself to be more of the man she wants to be with by taking a testosterone supplement and by letting her know that she is the best looking grangmother I have ever seen and that I support her in her business and her personal life.
She told me before the Bomb that I should just trust her and be patient and so I did not do anything. I just waited for her to come around, then she dropped the bomb. I am no longer just sitting around but DBing my A&& off and it is working.
I do not know GA... 
Could you please slow down and let me drop 15 pounds? Just joking