Just sharing that I was talking with my friend C the other day and was feeling some major guilt over being a "bad wife." This is random- why was I thinking about that? I thought I was over it!
Well, she at first tried to say "no, no- that's not bad!" but could tell that I wasn't looking for someone to reassure me! I was speaking the TRUTH and FACT if you know what I mean! So she said that we all have made mistakes, and she used to be a bad wife but improved but still has bad wife characteristics and some good wife characteristics, too. She pointed out that although she and her H (and my other friends) all liked stbxh, they noticed that he seemed to be "controlling."
This surprised me- controlling? He didn't boss me around or tell me not to go out with my friends or demand I come home from work at a decent hour or put me on an allowance, etc.!
She explained that it seemed like he took care of everything, and taking care might seem nice or nurturing, but it is also controlling. Guess what? She was right! How did that happen?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
