My heart goes out to you Mila. I can only imagine what pain your D birthday cause you and I am soo sorry.
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it was a though day
Tough BUT not insurmountable! One day at a time Mila…you need to heal honey and that just takes time.
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and resentful that H robbed D of that special family togetherness, and those loving memories you crate with each family celebration
Be careful with the resentment. It is normal and trust me a constant battle for me but we the LBS cannot let that resent grow roots in us. We can’t. It will rob of you of the healing. Rob you of your joy. Please Mila – feel it and then let it go the best way you can.
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.....we were a broken family today
Not “broken” honey…just “different’. Your D knows that you love her. She knows by now that you did not ask for this. As hard as it can be try to begin to look at these type of events as “different” not broken, not wrong.
Mila – I have said it to you before, you are amazing person. Your H will come to regret his choices. It may not happen today or in the next year or so BUT one day he will. You don’t throw away a diamond (that would be you) and not regret it.
So feel this pain, this loss and then get up and keep going. You have come so far – don’t let this rob you of what you have done, where you have grown.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
