Sorry to hear about the ring thing dude. I know how it hurts. Mine took off the ring the day after the bomb, then put it back on a few months later. I thought she had turned the corner that is until I found out that she was dating a married man so then I realized why she put it on. She wanted to go out with him and they could both play married.
Look man - you have a lot of [censored] that is going to be coming at you in the next few weeks and months. A lot. Stay strong. Now is the time for Still to really figure what Still's life will look like in the next few months. Your focus REALLY should be on Still and Still alone.
Hey, your not the conductor the train buddy. You are on the train but right now she is driving and I am sure that it's scares the shi* out of you. It is this fear that you are going to have to face. It is not easy dude - but your gonna have to look at it right in the eye and face it.
Re: the mortgage company or anything else that she wants to do...I would say this. Get a L - do not agree to anything. Do not think that she is going to be "nice" - she is going to do what she feels she needs to do. She is not going to be thinking about poor Still. So what does Still do then?
Here is really hard part. IMO you have a few options. Still can fight back really hard, get pissed off, doing things to make her pay, be a royal pain in the as* OR Still can say, the regardless of what anyone tells you - that you will do this with honor and dignity. Things that no one can take from you. It is your call buddy.
FTR, honor and dignity are the not the same as bending overbackwards and taking it in the a** - No it is very simple - Do what YOU feel is right and do it from a place of love and compassion. No more no less...that my friend is honor and dignity.
Your gonna get pissed, your gonna hurt man - sorry I could lie to you but I am not a liar. You will get thru this dude - you will.
My heart goes out to you Still. Keep your head up and be true to the person that Still wants to be.
God Bless Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
