[quote=Nikita Belle] Our last couple's therapist told me privately that she and her partner, who both saw us, observed that H was basically nowhere NEAR me in emotional sophistication, introspection, etc.- I think that's what some people have wondered about us all along, how 2 such different people could be together- and they (the therapists- and they weren't trying to convince me to pursue a D, they were honestly stumped) couldn't understand why I was with him. They asked me and I couldn't find much to say except I loved him and he was a decent guy. I used to defend him to friends and family, saying we had intelligent talks, etc. and how smart he was, but at his core, he's still about 15, and that hasn't changed with marriage or becoming a dad. It's really sad. Plus, he's ALWAYS the victim in everything- work, personal life, M, $ issues, etc. So, basically, I don't know why I've been upset over this. I guess no one likes feeling dumped, but part of me kind of emotionally gave up on him awhile back, maybe I just couldn't admit it b/c I wanted to try to still work on things. I don't like to give up, either, especially not on a commitment I took very seriously, although I guess he didn't.
