Long Distance Issues.....Possible WAW

[Dazed&Confused]

Well, I just took the first step. I just ordered our parenting planning software. I also had a good conversation with the W regarding child support.

I say good, but it was hard. She seems to think that she is going to be on the poverty line or something. She also told me (without me asking mind you) why she was asking if I was coming home early or not. She knows if I stay, I will make more money, and she wanted me to give her a little to help her get on her feet. It is such a hard sitch, because my kids are going to be with her for half of the time. At the same time, I want to be able to keep my house, and maintain some level lifestyle.

I know that things are going to get worse, but she was pouring it on me. Talking about putting stuff on lay-away, shopping at second hand stores, applying for WIC and food stamps. The whole nine. I let her finish and reminded her that she was getting money from me. She had to report that as income, and that chose this, not me. Then she went into how I could save money, buy a cheaper house, cancel the cable bill, ect. I told her that I would find a way to make it, but the house was out of the question. That is MY family home and the kids needed some sort of stability.

Well, long story short, it looks like I am moving forward. I am starting the custody and parenting plan report. After we agree on that, I am giving her the calculator reports for child support, and hopefully we can agree. Oh, and I also told her that I honestly didn't know how long I was staying. Which is true. If I had more money than I knew what to do with, I would be home right now. I told her that it all depended on how the divorce played out, and whether or not I have to fight for what I wanted.

Well that is about it on my end. I will let you know how it goes from here. Wish me luck with the parenting plan and CS negotiations......