From what my H has shared with me he was not happy when he was gone but he was trying desperately to "heal" himself...of course now he knows he was going about it in the wrong way (OW, alcohol, night clubs, wrong crowd)...but never the less he felt he was doing what he needed to find happiness...and from my point of view now there was no way he could let me know he wasn't happy because that would mean he was failing, that I wasn't the problem, and he wasn't going to conceded defeat...he had to be right! I know this may not be you wanted to hear...it is hard,'t lie about that...but is it worth it?...YOU BETCHA it is!!!
imlin, Thanks for this insight. I needed it today and it hit home for me with what is in my W's head.
