If you do nothing, you're going to lose them anyway. It's just going to take longer. She's trying to intimidate you right now, and it's working.
That being said, back to Step 1...
Move back into your bed.
She won't have it? You won't have a W that goes outside the M to cheat with another man. (See, you can do it, too...)
She doesn't like it, she can sleep somewhere else. You need to start DB'ing somewhere... start here.
If you back down now, you're just going to have a harder time regaining her respect later.
Ranger, this is perfect advice. ^
Look, you don't know me. Before I was Puppy Dog Tails, I was Chocolateeyes, and I've been on these forums for almost 7 years and almost 20,000 posts. During that time I've studied literally THOUSANDS of affairs.
You are making CLASSIC MISTAKES here, and making excuses for the good advice you are getting from both veterans and newer folks alike. You can do what you want -- it's obviously your sitch, your marriage, and your life -- but your way will NOT work, and you WILL regret that you took such a passive, fearful, doormat approach.
