I have a question that you may choose not to answer, Bob. I have sensed a very subtle edge of anger in some of your posts. Probably has to do with your calling Cindy 'the ex' and X-W (of course, technically she is your ex). Is that anger keeping you from her? Does she sense that?
Just a thought... maybe totally off target...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"