I followed him upstairs and said -geez I can't remember exactly what came first - but I did say the things about boundaries and how while he feels this has been only inappropriate for 2 months, I have felt it has for 2.5 years... since he told me if I made him choose between her and I he'd choose her. I said I know you don't think she is the main problem in our marriage but for half of our marriage I have felt second to her. ...
Let's look at misteps so you can learn going forward:
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since he told me if I made him choose between her and I he'd choose her.
You should have asked him to leave when this happened, IMHO.
The rest of it is you trying to reason with him, and it's not going to work, and the crap things he is feeding you are only rationalizations for doing whatever he wants to do.
Bottom line, he isn't treating you with any respect, and I don't think he can love you until he respects you, so why don't you ask him to move out?
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
