Something I read somewhere said that you can't truly make forward steps without being thoroughly tested after each step. I think that is what is happening here. Regardless how comfortable you feel, your W is scared to death. She made decisions, she moved forward in her life (with the D) and now she is saying she was WRONG? Of course, she has to say the friend stuff, etc. She has to save face a bit.
I wonder if the depression you both had the following day was because of too much too soon, not enough time to process what you were feeling, not being tentative enough, not testing enough. She feels vulnerable and has to recoup... may not mean anything at all. The one thing it does mean is PATIENCE. Give her the space she is asking for. No pressure. Be kind and loving. Be there for her when she calls.
You are doing remarkably well... I AM one of those that have been DBing for months... keep me in your prayers!
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
