I want to send H an email. I know I shouldn't right? Everything is through the lawyers. I haven't spoken to his since Nov. And my last email sent in June went unanswered.
So I may need a smack upside the head. But I just want to say:
[color:#3333FF]Dear H, I read the letter from OW's sister, I mean your L. May I remind you that after you left in March 2009:
I continued to pay the majority of the mortgage, through your unemployment which I think was June - August.
I agreed to keep you on my health insurance when you were out of work during that time and up through November.
I am fine with signing the house over to you although I'm taking a huge loss as its value dropped to $104K this year from $119K last year. Lucky for you but bad for me.
Even though I moved out and pay rent to live elsewhere, I continue to pay 1/2 the mortgage & put 1/2 my paycheck in the joint checking to cover utilities & house expenses.
I left you pretty much half of the china, crystal, and other stuff.
I dont' care about stuff. And I don't really care about money. If you recall from our marriage. Especially I don't want to fight over these things as we end our marriage.
But I went through the credit card bills from March through Dec. & highlighted your charges for moving, new furniture, restaurants and bars in X City, which were not for joint expenses.
I did not include my charges of $300 and $600 for counseling, those are mine and I will pay for them.
The only reason I am not willing to split the credit card 50/50 is because you made choices which is your right. But you made choices that didn't include me so I have to make choices for me.[/color]
Thoughts, comments welcome. Thanks friends for reading. I wish everyone a happy and productive day.
My goal is to not let my day be ruined by this development. Thanks to the words and support of you all, I am learning how to make choices for me. I want to be a positive, happy force in the world, not a bitter, unhappy negative force.
Thank you all for recognize and showing how to do this. I am definitely not there yet but at least I see some great examples. (((((hugs))))))
