He is trying to work out his guilt over grandma and he doesn't know how. He's running away by going out to party. He's trying to drown his guilt but it doesn't work. So, you are his target. He blames you for the moving out of GM's house. Don't accept that blame! It's his problem, not yours. Do not allow him to take his guilt out on you. Refuse to discuss it b/c I bet it has been rehashed several times. You know that is the root of the problem and you want to fix it....but it won't work. It's his problem.
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I use to be his world but now all I am is a rug. I know he don't respect me, I've lost it for myself. My self esteem is shot how can u have one when your husband can't stand you?
Listen to me sweetheart, I know about this kind of stuff. The more you act weak and allow him to treat you disrespectfully (and you know all the ways he treats you disrespectfully), the worse it will get. He lost his respect for you! Now you must get some gumption, some spit & fire! You need to rock his world by losing that clingly, needy, spineless little wifey attitude and find that gal who can stand up for herself and spit in the eye of any man who doesn't treat her like a queen! You are a rare, priceless creation....you are one of a kind. Nobody out there is exactly like you are. But you must believe this about yourself and get an attitude and act like you are the best thing that ever come along. Find your inner beauty and show it.
Mental abuse is a killer of the spirit. Chose to live with the spunk that God meant for you to have. You are NOT a rug if you don't act like one. People treat us the way we teach them by our attitude/actions. You are a gem.....a beautiful jewel.
Go find some books at the library on building self-esteem. Get a new hair do and get dolled up. Makes you feel better. I'll talk to you more later.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
