Sorry you are here Joeli. This is not a good place to be, but it CAN help you. These boards have helped me tremendously.
I'm still fairly new here, but from what I have learned, I would say that you need to wait. many times it is only after the point that you don't really care anymore that any progress is made. I have seen too many guys try to reconnect, even in the slightest way, only to get rebuffed. It happened to me many times and my wife filed for D anyway.
I think I may FINALLY be to the point where I really DO NOT care anymore. Only then will there be any chance, IF ANY exists at all. You can wait for someone else tomorrow morning, but that is my 2 cents.
By trying to convince herself that what she is doing is right, she is showing you that she is not really sure of it. If you leave her with her thoughts on this, she may decide she isn't right. If you pursue her AT ALL, you will just reinforce thefact that she has to GET AWAY from you. Just stand back and let her run with her own feelings andher own conscience. Nothing you can say or do at this point will sway her. This is a decision she has to make for herself. Let her struggle with it and wait for her to talk about the R FIRST. You should not bring it up.
I know that this is almost impossible to do. For me, it actually WAS impossible. My W told me not to do all of the things that I was doing. She was actually TELLING ME to DB her, but I couldn't help myself. I was distraught. Be stronger than I was and don't make the same mistakes.
