Gardener, just catching up. Well done with stating clear boundaries with your exW. I still am shaky about this...feeling uneasy when I think of things I need to set straight with stbxh. Gee. guess that makes me co-dependent! Crap. Sorry, I know this is your thread! I wonder how many of us who want(ed) to save our marriages are "co-dependent."

Anyway, how uncanny that you were missing your exW and then she shows up and you were able to realize that you don't really want her (present day). WOW.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004