New here but learning slowly. Advice appreciated

[irishblessings]

You make perfect sense. However, I think (as I've been told a million times on this board) that you are concentrating too much on him and not enough on you. You still find yourself "flinching" - which is completely understandable - but not desirable for you to get on with the business of YOU.

I know how crazy it is that you'll be tending to the work at home while he's off doing his MLC thing / but as hard as this is - it's really not about what he is doing - he moved out - he has the issue - it's not about you.

I've also been told - and it seems like you are recognizing this too - you have to own up to the things that "sting" you / what he says that hits a little too close to home. Take this time to figure through these things. Definitely disturbing, definitely painful - me, I'm not so fascinated by this - I'm more taken aback with the complete lack of moral grounding that accompanies MLC. I never knew...