Journaling.............After XH fixed things at my house on saturday, he texted me the following message sunday night: "Thanx again for the (favor you did for me)".....so he was thinking about me at 10pm on sunday night. Funny thing was that when I got the text, I had, moments before, sent him a thank you for fixing stuff at my house: "Hi there! Thank you VERY much for fixing stuff at the house yesterday. It has been SUCH a joy to walk into the laundry room since you fixed the light fixture. You’re brilliant!!!!!!!!!!......and thank you for not only cleaning the eaves, but for also fixing the malfunctioning gutter guards. I really appreciate it.........and I MEAN that! GAG P.S. I practiced my ping pong serves last week. If your knees are up to it would you be interested in hitting some balls sometime?"
Since XH began to reconnect (June) I have begun to write friendlier longer messages. Not sure if this is a good idea, but XH continues to respond.........maybe because I was pretty dim for 4 months after the D.
When I didn't hear from XH on monday I thought perhaps he had ducked back into the tunnel a bit, but then again I have no idea what's going on at work for him these days. Some days are very hectic for him.
This morning I received this e-mail: "Wednesday nite (for PP)? 6pm?" I replied: "Sounds great!.....I'll ask my instructor for some new (PP) tricks tomorrow. ;-) ". 15 minutes later XH replied: "See you then....By the way........I went over to see Mom (2 hours ago)....." and went on to say that his mother had been belligerent with the nurse (first time this happened) and "couldn't remember (having been in the Alzheimers care unit for so long). Mom cried, I cried....nothing we can do..... I told her. She felt very sad and said she wanted to die then. Told her she was in a good place and I would see her later..........I don't know if this is going to be a continuing problem or not".
I replied saying I would go visit his mother tomorrow (day off). XH and I will play PP tomorrow evening. I think that I need to continue being supportive because of this episode with his mother. No opportunities for any indirect R talk,...........but it seems like progress that XH told me that he cried. I only saw him tear up twice when we were going through D.
