Try slowing down just a bit. I know that you are hurting but it is never good to make huge, life-altering decisions based on emotion, feelings, pain etc. Yesterday, you were mowing the grass and doing her route because you wanted her to know you were willing to work on things and today you are ready to throw her under the bus. Your emotions are in control right now and you need to take some time to decompress, think about your goals, think about strategies to achieve them and make sure that ultimately, you are doing what is right and best for you and your M.
When people here say you need to "man up", it usually means to quit letting a spouse walk all over us. It doesn't mean to go on the offensive in a "damn the torpedoes" fashion. What are your goals? If I were in your shoes, I would focus on getting the money for your oral surgery because that is going to help you improve your life. It will help you with you confidence and help you with obtaining more gainful employment which is a good thing. After this step, you keep building yourself up until you will eventually know what is the best step to take with your R.
Originally Posted By: lonelyguy
I'm just waiting to get the tooth money tomorrow before I start the process. If she doesn't give it to me then there will be a full blown war. I know I shouldn't be vindictive, but in my case I think that revenge could be sweet and eventually hurt her even more than she has hurt me.
Do you really want this? How is it going to help YOU? Confucious said "Before embarking on the journey of revenge, dig two graves". Do you really want to invite more pain into your life right now? Try to get the money for the oral surgery and move forward in a very controlled and informed fashion from there. The people here can help you with that approach. Improve yourself, don't take steps that will make things worse for you.
