"God works in mysterious ways" Don't scream, I've always felt that was a catch-all phrase myself. But maybe, and this is a tough one for me, maybe you need to try and see what God wants, not want you want. My favorite is "God's will never takes me where God's love doesn't protect me." Try to focus on what it is he wants you to see about yourself, not your H. Frankly, your H is God's problem. Not yours.

Now that I sound like the bible thumper of the Southeast . . . .

I'm not at all. I'm as backsliding a Christian as anyone in this town. But I try. That's all God asks, really, that you try. And for this one, you have to try for yourself. Trust me, I'm writing this not just to you, but to myself, as I have to remind myself all the time of the very same things.