It's been a roller coaster of a day, but at least I seem to have ended up on the upswing.
Started off with having to get a ride to work with H because I had a flat tire. I honestly can barely tolerate his presence these days so it was not fun. And, as much as I had made up my mind not to get into anything, we ended up arguing. Of course it was ALL my fault that we argued, according to H. My perspective is that I call him on his BS now and he instantly gets defensive and mad... and it goes from there.
Oh well. I found myself another ride home.
I had help shifting my perspective from the crap H accuses me of to remembering the truth of who I am. That help came from my very good friend and DB brother.
Then, I had another lawyer meeting. This is the third lawyer I have met with and I guess the third is the charm! She is the right fit for me. I liked her approach, she was no nonsense but also very empathetic and personable, and she made sense! She explained things so much more clearly than the other two. She mapped out a plan for me that fits perfectly for what I want to happen and at minimal cost.
I left that office feeling empowered, hopeful, and ready to move forward.
H is likely going to be surprised that I am moving forward this quickly. But, I will not remain married to a man that is remaining in a R with the woman he cheated on me with. Period. And he is choosing to do that.
I honestly can barely tolerate his presence these days so it was not fun. And, as much as I had made up my mind not to get into anything, we ended up arguing. Of course it was ALL my fault that we argued, according to H. My perspective is that I call him on his BS now and he instantly gets defensive and mad... and it goes from there.