This sounds like some shark feeding frenzy at the candy store... pathetic... just say no and exit
he was parroting what his parents had told him. i found that out a week later when he slipped up and said his dad wanted the money back.
he's trying to recoup a lot of this by claiming the engagement ring as his. my l said 'how old is your h? 4?'
there's a lot of history to my sitch which i will not repeat in this forum. it would be like reliving the past, looking back .. something i don't want to do.
i want to look ahead. focus on me. i am in a good place. i had to stop the intel as well. it started to make my heart race. i don't need that. i need to take care of myself.
and what if he is seeing someone? is she crazy enough to think that she can handle dead weight? one thought that i couldn't get out of my mind was .. what if he is involved with someone? and he bought a home with her .. and they are expecting their first child together? what if this was all a ploy to get me out of the picture so he can marry his pregnant mistress?
i know .. it's crazy. but .. i'm at the point where i don't really care. i am not giving up but i'm not enabling or pushing for the d. if he wants it, he can do it. i'm just going to use my time wisely. if anything, i should thank him for this separation. it gave me time to think about what i wanted.
you've given me a lot of insight. and have been very helpful in allowing me to see my sitch.
will my h ever realize his own issues? they don't think there's anything wrong with them. he refused marriage counselling but opted for ic. i don't know if he's still going to ic. but he had issues to work out. he went to ic when we were still living togther. i knew when he had an ic session because he would come home angry.
had he just put a little bit of effort into making our marriage work, we could have avoided this entire mess. i know we don't have children. but the damage isn't just between my h and i. friends and family are very hurt. when you act on impulse like that and think selfishly of the long term consequence, it's so not worth it. it really saddens me that people choose this path thinking it will lead to happiness.
