Ave Maria! Amazing your son can express such feelings. Have you considered that rather than not seeing you "as a woman" you H doesn't see himself "as a man" yet and maybe you have the key to this? This trip may be a good change to re-connect more, be a slut and who knows what else. I'm really not sure those self-help books have all the correct answers. But looks like its all coming together for you anyway. All the best!
